In a world where celebrity marriages often seem fleeting, Kevin Kline and Phoebe Cates stand out as a beacon of enduring love and partnership. Celebrating over 35 years of marriage, the couple has navigated the complexities of Hollywood while maintaining a sense of normalcy and privacy that many in the industry find elusive.
Kevin Kline, the acclaimed actor known for his roles in films such as “A Fish Called Wanda” and the recent Apple TV+ series “Disclaimer,” attributes the strength of their relationship to a simple yet profound philosophy: avoid the trappings of a typical Hollywood marriage. Speaking at the Toronto International Film Festival, Kline humorously noted, “If your marriage lasts more than six months, you’re already in the Guinness Book of World Records, if you’re a Hollywood marriage.” This light-hearted comment underscores the challenges faced by many couples in the entertainment industry.
The couple, who have spent most of their married life away from the glitz and glamour of Hollywood, have chosen to raise their family in the Upper East Side of Manhattan. Kline emphasizes that their decision to live outside of the Hollywood bubble has played a significant role in their marriage’s longevity. He remarked, “We’ve never lived in Hollywood, and I think that’s a big part of it. We’re low-key people, despite being actors.” This choice has allowed them to cultivate a more grounded family life.
Kline attributes much of their marital success to Cates herself, describing her as a stabilizing force in his life. He affectionately stated, “She’s got her head on her shoulders, unlike me. I usually have my head on her shoulders, too. She’s a great wife, a great mother, great person, and she keeps me honest.” Kline’s playful admission highlights the mutual respect and admiration that defines their relationship.
The couple’s journey began in 1983 when they met during auditions for the film “The Big Chill.” At that time, Kline was transitioning from stage to screen, having made his film debut in the critically acclaimed “Sophie’s Choice.” Their romance blossomed, leading to their marriage in 1989, the same year Kline received an Academy Award for his performance in “A Fish Called Wanda.”
Phoebe Cates, who gained fame for her iconic roles in beloved 1980s films such as “Fast Times at Ridgemont High” and “Gremlins,” stepped back from acting in the 1990s. She made a brief return for the 2001 film “The Anniversary Party,” which was directed by her close friend Jennifer Jason Leigh. Since then, Cates has focused on her entrepreneurial endeavors, running Blue Tree, a boutique she opened in Manhattan in 2005.
The couple shares two children: Owen, born in 1991, and Greta, born in 1994. Kline and Cates have prioritized family life, ensuring that their children grow up in a nurturing environment away from the intense scrutiny often associated with celebrity culture.
As they navigate their careers and family life, Kline and Cates continue to exemplify what it means to have a successful partnership in an industry where many relationships falter. Their commitment to each other and their family serves as an inspiration, proving that love can thrive even in the most challenging environments.
With Kline’s recent work in “Disclaimer,” a series created by Oscar-winning director Alfonso Cuarón and featuring Cate Blanchett, the couple remains active in the entertainment world. Yet, they have managed to keep their personal lives private, focusing on what truly matters: their bond and family.
Their story is a testament to the idea that a strong relationship is built on mutual respect, shared values, and a commitment to navigating life’s challenges together. Kline and Cates have not only survived the test of time but have thrived, creating a life filled with love, laughter, and authenticity.
